April Reflections – Small Steps To Big Change

How quickly we’re steaming through the year, it’s May! And finally it actually feels like spring: the sun popped out to say hello a couple of times throughout April and the UK was pretty excited about it. Unlike my skin, which, translucent from the months of darkness, did not appreciate the sudden warmth and showed me this by becoming burnt. Oops.

If you read my last reflections post, you’ll know that March wasn’t the best of months for me. I struggled a lot with making future decisions and maintaining a healthy level of self-confidence and motivation; I was stuck in a cycle of negative thoughts, making all aspects of my life seem insurmountable. That sucked.

But it also made me so desperate to get out of it that it led to a push to make April better – in any possible manner I could. I became determined to take small steps towards improving my wellbeing in an attempt to make myself more resilient to uncertainty, even if that was just an ounce more resilience. Because an ounce is still better than nothing, and I truly felt like I had hit some kind of rock bottom.

April really was a month of strengthening myself:

  • I got up early every day – so that I could feel more relaxed and on top of things, and be more productive.

Read: Why and How to Wake Up Early

  • I started running – which has been painful and difficult but surprisingly a lot of fun too.

Read: How I Use My Bullet Journal to Track Fitness

  • I started playing basketball – to challenge myself to do something different.

Read: Femininity and Anxiety on the Basketball Court

  • I focussed on self-care – attempting to eat a little more healthily, doing small, deliberate things just for myself and spending time on treating myself.

Read: My 8 Self-Care SpringRituals

  • I organised myself with lists – writing down things I wanted or needed to do and my priorities for the next few months.

Read: April Bullet JournalSetup

  • I cleaned and tidied my living space – as I always seem to be saying, a tidy space helps you to have a clearer mind.

Read: Clearing Out My Wardrobe: How Spring Cleaning Promotes Good MentalHealth

Most of these are small, simple things, yet they’ve made a big difference to how I feel. Looking back at this last month, I actually feel proud of the efforts I’ve made to help myself. I have a lot to thank my family for when it comes to bouncing back towards more positive feelings, but this post is a good reminder that you have to credit yourself for some of the work too. Improving your general wellbeing, even if this is just an increment or two of progress, can be hard. And this is only going to work if you try to make it work.

With a clearer headspace, and a more positive mindset, I approached several big decisions in April and managed to tackle them all in a successful way (or at least, it feels successful to me). I have decided on my university for this September, I have handed in my notice at work and I have booked flights for my summer travel plans.

April has been a good month for me. The power of supportive people around me, a desire to help myself and a sprinkling of sunshine have all worked together to pull me out from the sinking sand and set me off on a more positive path. I’m not totally unrealistic though, it is not like my whole future has magically been sorted and everything is clear and sparkly like a wine glass from a dishwasher advert. I know there are moments in my near-future that I will struggle with, and decisions I have yet to make. But I just want to pause for a moment and realise that the sun really does come out sometimes, even in England.


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19 thoughts on “April Reflections – Small Steps To Big Change

  1. Karen says:

    You’ve done loads to help your mood improve, Alys, even things that seem small can make a huge difference. And small is the best way to start, as trying to tackle huge projects or decisions can feel completely overwhelming. It was great to have a few days of spring sunshine in April, it really helps with a feeling of well-being.
    I hope May is good for you and you continue building on the work you’ve already started.
    You’re doing great!
    Karen x

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  2. crystalsandcurls says:

    I’m glad you felt a bit better last month; honestly, I think you deserve a lot of credit for realising that you weren’t feeling mentally great and taking all the necessary steps to try to feel better. I’ll definitely try some of these things when I’m feeling down xx

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  3. Gem says:

    Good on you for turning your life around, I’m new to your blog but will definitely be having a look at some of your posts from April as I want to do a simillar thing in May! Thank you for this post you’ve motivated me x

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  4. autumnskiesblog says:

    So glad you had a good month!! I admire the work you’re doing. I know it’s never an easy road, but I think it’s wonderful that you’re doing your best to take steps to make yourself feel better/happier! It took me 15ish years to figure out how to even start to take care of myself mentally/emotionally. Keep doing what you’re doing!

    Can’t wait to work with you, and to hear a May update!

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  5. Nancy says:

    Even though March wasn’t the best, it helped give you the boost you need to make April a better month. These are really good steps you took to become a better person. YES on self-care!!! It’s so important to take care of yourself because not much can be done if you’re drained. Small steps make a big difference :).

    exquisitely.me

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  6. Hannah says:

    One of the things I struggle with most is getting up in the morning so I definitely want to start working on that these coming months. I’m so proud of you for taking the steps towards better mental health as I know it is not easy. xx

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